Sexualization refers to the act of making something sexual or sensuous. It is the process of turning a nonsexual object into one that can be perceived sexually. Sexualizing an object could mean creating an image, idea, product, or behavior associated with sex and sexual desire.
Women's clothing, such as swimwear and lingerie, can be seen as sexual objects because they are designed for women to wear during private moments with their partner. This perception often leads to the objectification of women. In this case, it becomes difficult for men to differentiate between the woman and her clothes; the sexualized object takes precedence over the person. As a result, men tend to view women more as objects rather than individuals with unique personalities and goals. When women dress up, men may respond positively and feel aroused.
When women go out dressed casually, men might lose interest.
Women may start feeling insecure about themselves if they cannot meet their partners' expectations concerning their appearance.
The implication of sexualization in relationships has profound effects on both partners. Sexualized perceptions impact alignment of personal, relational, and couple goals by influencing how partners perceive each other. The relationship can become centered around sex, intimacy, or a combination of both.
When partners see each other as objects of desire, they may not prioritize other aspects of their relationship. Instead, they focus on attaining physical pleasure, which can lead to frustration and dissatisfaction. On the other hand, when partners see each other as individuals with distinct goals and interests outside of the bedroom, they can work together towards achieving mutual fulfillment.
Sexualized perceptions also influence the way couples communicate.
Sexualized communication involves using sexual language or behavior during conversations unrelated to sex. It is common among teenagers but can be problematic in adult relationships. Such interactions are usually intended to flatter the listener but often create discomfort and tension. Couples who engage in sexualized communication find it difficult to address serious issues because everything becomes sexualized. Moreover, partners may struggle to maintain healthy boundaries since they have difficulty separating sexuality from everyday life. This can lead to confusion regarding what is acceptable behavior within the relationship, leading to misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
Sexualized perceptions can have positive and negative impacts on relationships. Partners must learn to balance their desires and preferences while respecting each other's individual needs and aspirations. They should agree on what level of sexualization works for them and avoid objectifying one another.
How do sexualized perceptions impact alignment of personal, relational, and couple goals?
Sexualized perceptions may lead individuals to align their personal and relational goals with those of their partner to maintain intimacy, trust, and commitment. In fact, research suggests that sexuality is an important aspect of romantic relationships and can influence how people perceive and prioritize each other's needs (McDowell & Rhoades, 2016).