Intimate partner violence is a serious problem affecting many people, but it's often overlooked because of its hidden nature. It's estimated that one in four women will experience domestic violence during their lifetime, and one in seven men. Same-sex couples are also affected, though to what extent remains unclear due to underreporting. But there may be more victims than previously thought. A recent study showed that among lesbian couples, nearly half reported some form of abuse within the past year, compared to just 15% of heterosexual couples.
Same-sex partnerships face unique challenges when seeking help for IPV. They often go undetected by law enforcement or service providers who don't understand the dynamics of same-sex relationships. Victims fear being outed, which can lead them into further isolation and vulnerability. They're less likely to report incidents because they lack support systems like family members and friends. Services often assume victim and perpetrator roles and offer generic advice without considering specific needs. Plus, LGBTQ+ folks already struggle with discrimination, stigma, and marginalization, compounding trauma.
There are ways to address this issue effectively. Service providers need training on working with same-sex couples and understanding their unique needs. Resources should be tailored to diverse populations and cultures. Victim advocates must be available 24/7, particularly for survivors from marginalized communities. Shelters should accept all types of survivors and provide safe spaces for children and pets. Education about healthy relationships and consent is essential in schools and workplaces. And legal protections against bias-motivated crimes need strengthening.
By recognizing the intersecting forms of oppression exacerbating IPV in same-sex relationships, we can better respond to victims and prevent future violence. Awareness campaigns should focus on intersectionalities such as race, class, ability, immigration status, religion, age, etc. Survivors need more than just shelter; they require long-term support to heal from emotional and physical wounds. We must end social stigma so that everyone feels heard and empowered to seek help when needed.
What are the intersecting forms of oppression and invisibility that exacerbate intimate partner violence in same-sex relationships, and how can social services respond effectively?
One form of oppression is heterosexism, which is prejudice against people who identify as LGBTQ+. It manifests as discrimination in employment, housing, healthcare, and other areas of life (Abrams et al. , 2017). This creates an environment where intimate partner violence is more likely to go unreported and unpunished because victims fear being outed or ostracized by their communities.