The psychological impact of military service is often discussed in terms of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and depression, but veterans experience many other forms of mental distress that affect their relationship dynamics with their significant others. One such form is PTG (post-traumatic growth), which refers to positive changes that can occur following exposure to adversity or trauma.
PTG may also have negative effects on relational continuity for partners of veterans, who may feel less connected to their partner's emotional world after experiencing PTG. This article will explore how partners can maintain a sense of relational continuity when trauma alters their veteran's internal emotional world.
It is important to understand what relational continuity means in this context. Relational continuity describes the degree to which partners feel like they know their partner well and have an understanding of their inner life. It includes aspects like shared experiences, emotional intimacy, communication, trust, and mutual commitment. When trauma alters the veteran's internal emotional world, these aspects are challenged as the veteran begins to cope with new thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Partners may notice changes in their veteran's mood, energy level, or ability to connect emotionally. These changes can be upsetting and confusing, leading partners to question whether they really know their veteran at all. They may feel as though their bond has been damaged or broken.
There are several strategies that partners can use to maintain relational continuity even when their veteran's internal emotional world has changed. Firstly, partners should try to stay curious about their veteran's experience rather than assuming that they know everything. They can ask questions about what their veteran is thinking and feeling without prying too deeply into personal matters. Secondly, partners can continue to engage in activities together that were enjoyed before the traumatic event, such as hobbies or social gatherings. Thirdly, partners can practice active listening by focusing on their veteran's words rather than interrupting them. Fourthly, partners can recognize their own needs for support and connection from others outside the relationship. Fifthly, partners can seek professional help if needed.
Partners can remember that while their veteran's experience is unique, they are not alone in coping with trauma-related struggles.
By implementing these strategies, partners can maintain a sense of relational continuity with their veterans despite the impact of trauma.
This process requires patience and flexibility. It may take time for veterans to adjust to their new emotional landscape, and partners will need to learn how to navigate it alongside them. With open communication and compassion, partners can help their veterans heal and grow while still maintaining a strong connection.
How do partners maintain a sense of relational continuity when trauma alters the veteran's internal emotional world?
Partners can help their military members maintain a sense of relational continuity by demonstrating patience and understanding while they are coping with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) symptoms. They should be present for them even if they are not ready to discuss their experiences, which may include flashbacks, nightmares, hypervigilance, avoidance behaviors, and mood swings.