Sexual novelty refers to exploring new sexual experiences, which can include different sexual positions, trying new fantasies, using sex toys, visiting unusual places for sex, etc. This study examines how it affects couples' long-term relationship satisfaction, desire, and intimacy levels.
When people are in a committed, monogamous relationship, they tend to engage in less frequent but more intense sexual activity than when they are single.
Some studies suggest that sexual novelty may increase overall sexual satisfaction and improve feelings of closeness and connection between partners. It is possible because novel sexual activities increase the release of oxytocin, dopamine, and testosterone, which enhance arousal, pleasure, and attachment. Besides, trying new things creates excitement and anticipation, making them feel more attracted to their partner.
Researchers have found that novelty has both positive and negative effects on relationships. On one hand, individuals who report higher levels of sexual novelty have been shown to experience greater relationship satisfaction and commitment, increased communication and trust, and higher levels of romantic attraction. On the other hand, too much novelty can create anxiety and distrust, leading to lower intimacy levels and decreased emotional bonding with their partners.
One potential explanation for this phenomenon is that sexual novelty can lead to a cycle of escalating demands whereby couples seek out increasingly extreme sexual acts to maintain or increase their sexual thrill. As time passes, these acts become routine and lose their appeal, requiring even riskier actions to achieve the same level of excitement and interest. This cycle can be detrimental to a couple's relationship if they fail to find ways to maintain or rekindle the passion without resorting to risky behavior or outside partners.
Another theory suggests that sexual novelty can damage relationship quality by creating an environment where couples focus excessively on their own needs and desires rather than each other's. This self-centeredness can cause resentment and frustration in partners, who may feel neglected and unappreciated. In addition, it may lead to a lack of emotional closeness and trust, making them less likely to confide in each other about personal issues and problems.
Sexual novelty is not a straightforward solution to maintain long-term desire and intimacy in a relationship. While it can enhance arousal and attachment, it should be practiced moderately and within safe boundaries to avoid damaging effects on relationships. Couples need to communicate openly and honestly about what works best for them and explore new experiences together. They should also prioritize emotional connection over physical satisfaction and seek support from friends and family when needed.
What is the effect of sexual novelty on long-term relational desire and emotional intimacy?
Sexual novelty has been shown to increase long-term relational desire and emotional intimacy in some contexts. In a study by Lerner et al. (2017), participants who engaged in new sexual activities with their partners reported increased levels of both physical and emotional attraction towards them compared to those who did not engage in such activities.