There is a growing body of research suggesting that military training that encourages soldiers to "compartmentalize" their emotions can have lasting effects on how they experience intimacy and connection in civilian life. This process, known as "emotional compartmentalization," involves separating one's feelings from one's actions, often in order to perform under pressure or meet strict standards of conduct. While this approach may be necessary for successful military service, it can also make it difficult for individuals to develop deep and meaningful connections outside of the military setting. In fact, some studies suggest that veterans who have undergone extensive emotional compartmentalization training are more likely to report difficulty cultivating emotional fusion—the ability to open up emotionally to another person—in romantic and platonic relationships.
The effects of emotional compartmentalization on intimacy can manifest in several ways.
Individuals who have been trained to suppress their emotions may find it challenging to express themselves fully in an intimate context, leading to feelings of frustration or even resentment toward their partner. They may also struggle with understanding or responding appropriately to the emotional needs of others, which can lead to misunderstandings and conflict.
Veterans who have learned to compartmentalize their emotions may feel disconnected from their own feelings, making it harder to identify and communicate their desires and preferences within a relationship.
There are strategies that individuals who have undergone military training can use to overcome these obstacles and cultivate emotional fusion. One approach is to practice mindfulness meditation, which has been shown to help people regulate their emotions and improve their ability to connect with others. Another strategy is to engage in therapy or other forms of supportive counseling, which can provide a safe space to explore one's emotions and learn new coping mechanisms.
Couples and partners can work together to create a shared language and framework for communicating about emotions, helping each member understand and appreciate the other's perspective.
While emotional compartmentalization may be necessary for successful military service, it can have lasting effects on intimacy and connection outside of the military setting. By acknowledging this reality, veterans and their loved ones can take steps to promote healthy and fulfilling relationships by learning to manage their emotions effectively and connecting deeply with those around them.
How does military training that emphasizes emotional compartmentalization affect later attempts to cultivate emotional fusion in intimacy?
Military training can be demanding and requires strict discipline to follow orders, which may lead to emotional detachment from others. This can make it difficult for former soldiers to establish close relationships with others due to their inability to fully express their emotions. Additionally, many veterans struggle with PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) which can further complicate emotional connections.