Coping Strategies
Chronic Social Rejection
The term "coping" refers to the process of dealing with difficult situations or emotions by making adaptive adjustments. For individuals who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, or otherwise non-cisgender and heterosexual (LGBTQ+), experiencing chronic social rejection can be particularly challenging. This type of rejection is characterized by prolonged exposure to negative attitudes, discrimination, and exclusion based on their gender identity or sexual orientation. Such experiences can have profound psychological effects that can last for years, if not a lifetime.
One coping strategy commonly employed by LGBTQ+ individuals subjected to chronic social rejection is avoidance. They may withdraw from social interactions, avoid places where they are likely to encounter prejudice or discrimination, or seek out support groups or online communities where they feel more accepted. Another strategy is denial, in which individuals minimize or downplay the significance of their experiences of rejection. They may try to convince themselves that it's not really a big deal or that they deserve it because of something they did or said.
Another coping strategy is compensation, in which individuals attempt to offset feelings of worthlessness or low self-esteem by engaging in activities or behaviors that make them feel better about themselves. This might include pursuing hobbies or interests, volunteering, joining a religious community, or seeking out relationships that provide a sense of validation or belonging. Some people also use substances like alcohol or drugs to numb the pain of rejection.
A fourth coping strategy is rationalization, in which individuals justify or explain away the actions of others who reject them.
They might tell themselves that the person who rejected them was having a bad day, didn't mean anything personal by it, or doesn't really understand them. This can be an effective way of preserving one's sense of self-worth and maintaining positive relationships with those who do accept them.
Long-Term Psychological Outcomes
The long-term psychological effects of chronic social rejection on LGBTQ+ populations can be severe. Studies have found that these individuals are at increased risk for anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, and other mental health problems. They may also experience lower life satisfaction, poorer physical health, and higher levels of stress and trauma. In addition, persistent exposure to rejection can lead to reduced self-esteem, negative body image, and distorted beliefs about oneself and the world around them.
There are also strategies that can help mitigate the negative impact of chronic social rejection. These include seeking out support from family, friends, and therapists; practicing mindfulness meditation or other forms of relaxation; engaging in regular exercise and physical activity; developing a strong sense of identity and purpose; and cultivating resilience through challenges and setbacks.
Advocacy groups like PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) provide resources and support for families and communities affected by discrimination against LGBTQ+ people.
Coping strategies emerge in LGBTQ+ populations subjected to chronic social rejection, and they affect long-term psychological outcomes. By understanding these strategies and their potential consequences, we can better support LGBTQ+ individuals in navigating difficult situations and promoting positive mental health and well-being.