The experience of veterans who suffer from erectile dysfunction is often accompanied by feelings of guilt, shame, and self-blame. This can be because they may interpret their difficulty as a sign that they are no longer able to function sexually due to age, injury, or trauma suffered during combat.
There are several factors that contribute to this perception.
Many veterans feel guilty about their ability to perform well during combat but not when it comes to sex. They may see themselves as strong and capable in one area but weak and inadequate in another. Second, some veterans have experienced traumatic events during service which affect their sexual desire and performance.
If they were exposed to violence or witnessed the death of comrades, they may find it difficult to get aroused or maintain an erection. Third, some veterans have low testosterone levels caused by injuries sustained during service, making it harder for them to achieve orgasm. Fourth, PTSD can cause vivid flashbacks while trying to have sex that make intimacy difficult or impossible. Fifth, many veterans find it challenging to communicate their needs with partners, leading to misunderstandings and frustration.
In addition to these physical and psychological factors, cultural stigma surrounding sexuality may play a role in how veterans perceive themselves. Veterans' communities tend to emphasize toughness and masculinity, which means admitting sexual difficulties may be seen as weak or feminine.
Many veterans have been taught that being a good soldier means suppressing emotion and hiding vulnerability, so they may struggle to seek help for sexual issues out of fear of appearing less than manly.
The military often glorifies sexually active soldiers, perpetuating unrealistic expectations of what is possible and normal in bed.
To overcome this problem, veterans need to understand that there are numerous reasons why they might experience difficulty with sex after leaving service, and none of them reflect on their character or ability as individuals. They should also learn strategies to manage anxiety, stress, and depression related to sex, such as relaxation techniques and communication skills training. Couples counseling can also help address relationship problems that arise from sexual dysfunction. And finally, therapy tailored specifically for veterans can provide a safe space for exploring sexual issues without judgment or shame. With time and patience, most veterans will find ways to enjoy healthy relationships based on mutual respect and understanding rather than performance pressures.
What psychological effects emerge when veterans perceive their sexual difficulties as a reflection of moral or personal failure?
Veterans may feel shame, guilt, and self-blame for their sexual difficulties due to the cultural stigma surrounding mental health issues and PTSD diagnoses. They may believe that they are "broken" or less than others who do not experience similar problems. This can lead to negative thoughts about oneself and feelings of inadequacy, which can impact relationships with partners and family members.