Public scenes require access conscious consent when play occurs in partly public spaces
If you want to have a scene at a crowded coffee shop or a popular park, you might think that's fine. It can be fun, even liberating, to interact with strangers in a busy public setting. However, play spaces such as these are often problematic for those who need more space or quiet than others do, like deaf individuals, elderly people, disabled folks, and parents with small children. Public places may also pose safety risks if physical boundaries aren't respected by all participants. It is up to the group to ensure that everyone feels safe and included.
Consent and awareness should come before engaging in public play. First, check the location to make sure it suits your needs. Then consider whether you can control sound levels so that other patrons won't hear what's happening. Consider how close together people will be—can they touch without invading each other's personal bubble? If there isn't enough room to move around freely, stay away from intimate touching, kissing, and erotic talk.
It's important to practice good hygiene too. Always wash hands thoroughly after touching your genitals or exchanging fluids. For example, don't share sex toys that haven't been disinfected properly. Avoid public displays of affection (e.g., holding hands) if there are kids nearby. If someone asks you to stop due to an allergy or health concern, honor their wishes promptly. Even though some people may find public play exciting, others could feel threatened. Pay attention to body language and non-verbal cues.
If you plan on having public scenes regularly, remember that it's okay to ask for a private place once in a while. You might want to reserve a hotel room or meet somewhere where privacy is guaranteed. Be aware that if things get heated, other people might try to join in. That's not necessarily a bad thing unless you don't welcome them! In such situations, use explicit verbal cues like "no" or "stop." Also, try to end quickly if something goes wrong.
Public spaces allow us to explore our sexuality outside the confines of private homes. However, we must consider everyone's needs as well as our own desires. With care, play can be safe, fun, and inclusive.