The article will explore how the unique communication styles used by members of the military can lead to misunderstandings and miscommunication during intimate conversations. It will discuss why directness, brevity, and command are important for effective communication in military settings but can be counterproductive in intimate conversations that require nuance.
Directness
Directness is essential in the military because it ensures that orders and instructions are clear and unambiguous. This helps avoid confusion and misinterpretation, which could have serious consequences in combat situations.
Directness can also create tension and frustration in romantic or sexual relationships. When someone is trying to express their feelings or emotions, being too blunt can come across as insensitive or even cruel. The result may be an argument or breakup.
Brevity
Brevity is another military communication style that can backfire in personal relationships. Military personnel must convey information concisely to save time and reduce the risk of errors. In personal relationships, however, brevity can leave partners feeling unheard or dismissed. Partners need time to process what has been said and respond thoughtfully. If a conversation is rushed or truncated, they may feel disrespected or ignored.
Command
Command is a third military communication style that can cause problems in intimate conversations. Military leaders are expected to give clear commands that are followed without question. In personal relationships, giving commands can sound like bossing or ordering around a partner. This can damage trust and intimacy over time.
To overcome these challenges, service members can practice self-awareness and adapt their communication styles to fit different contexts. They can also seek out support from friends or family who understand civilian life better than they do. With patience and effort, service members can learn to communicate effectively in all aspects of their lives, including their most intimate relationships.
What happens when a service member unconsciously applies military communication styles—directness, brevity, command—within intimate conversations requiring nuance?
It is not unusual for military personnel to unknowingly adopt their military communication styles into interpersonal relationships outside of the military context. This can lead to miscommunication and tension with loved ones who may perceive these behaviors as rude, cold, or insensitive. Service members must be aware of how they communicate in order to prevent this from happening and understand that civilian communication styles are different than those used in the military.