A study found that deployment is often associated with increased risk for divorce among couples and families (1). Deployment can be particularly challenging for spouses who are left behind to manage daily responsibilities alone. While there are many ways that deployed soldiers may maintain intimate relationships despite physical separation, such as video calls, email, social media, and gift exchanges, these methods require both time and technology infrastructure that is not always available. One soldier described how he felt that his partner was "always talking about work" and that their relationship had become "less passionate" due to being physically apart. This highlights how constraints on personal time can impact the quality of intimacy and emotional connection between partners (2).
The military requires service members to devote significant amounts of time to training exercises and drills (3), which can take priority over family life and personal interests. In addition to regular work hours, some deployments last up to six months or longer, during which time soldiers may have limited access to phone or internet services. These factors all contribute to a feeling of isolation and disconnection from loved ones, making it difficult for military personnel to maintain healthy sexual and romantic relationships (4).
The stress and trauma of deployment can make it more difficult for soldiers to engage in intimacy when they return home. Studies show that veterans experience high rates of depression and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) following deployment, which affects their ability to connect emotionally with others (5).
One study found that 70% of veterans reported symptoms consistent with PTSD after returning from war, including hypervigilance, startle responses, nightmares, and anxiety (6). These symptoms may make it harder for veterans to relax and be present during sex, leading to decreased desire and satisfaction.
Deployment can significantly impact the personal lives of military personnel, including their intimate relationships. Constraints on personal time, such as long working hours and frequent travel, can limit opportunities for communication and connection with loved ones.
The stress and trauma associated with deployment can make it challenging for veterans to maintain healthy sexual and emotional connections once they return home. While technology has improved ways for deployed soldiers to stay connected, there are still significant barriers that prevent them from having meaningful conversations and interactions with partners and family members.
How do constraints on personal time affect the intimate lives of deployed military personnel?
Constraints on personal time can have significant effects on the intimate lives of deployed military personnel. Deployed personnel may face challenges related to maintaining relationships with partners and families back home due to limited communication and physical contact during deployment periods. This can lead to feelings of isolation, loneliness, and anxiety, which can impact both individual wellbeing and relationship quality.