Everyday Life Can Be a Power Exchange
Some submissives choose to wear collars, use certain postures, or call their Dominant throughout daily life—outside of scenes. This is called "everyday" D/s, and it can be an important part of many relationships for Dominants and submissives who desire it. Everyday D/s may include a variety of activities such as taking orders from one's partner, practicing obedience, following rules, serving, kneeling, cleaning, cooking, or dressing in specific ways, etc., even when there isn't play involved. It is usually agreed upon beforehand whether they will live together, work together, or have separate lives outside of their power dynamic.
The purpose of everyday D/s is to enhance identity and devotion between partners. The Dominant establishes the authority structure and maintains control, while the submissive submits to their desires. The relationship becomes more intense, authentic, and intimate this way. Both partners become committed to each other's wellbeing and fulfillment, which creates a strong bond. In some cases, people also enjoy sexualizing everyday interactions by incorporating fetishes or kinky elements into them.
However, not everyone wants or needs everyday D/s in order to feel satisfied with their BDSM relationship. Some prefer to keep it strictly within scenes or separate their identities entirely during non-sexual times. Others might find the constant presence of power dynamics overwhelming. Therefore, communication and negotiation are essential for making sure that both partners understand each other's boundaries and comfort levels regarding this practice.
If accepted by both partners, power exchange may become woven into routine and lifestyle. It can be an exciting challenge if done right! Dominants get to be "Dominants" all day long, while submissives get to serve and show respect. They may use honorifics such as "Sir", "Ma'am," or "Master" instead of each other's names, hold hands in public, perform tasks as a form of service, etc. This can bring a unique level of pleasure and intimacy to daily life, but requires trust, honesty, and openness from all involved parties.
In conclusion, everyday D/s is a personal choice that requires careful consideration before trying out. If both partners agree on its benefits, it can add another dimension of intensity and satisfaction to their lives together.